Time

My HRM tutor shared a interesting insight with us today. He opened up the floor for questions and Hon asked... basically how do you have time/manage time for your family and work?

"Very simple. Be assertive. Learn how to say 'No'."

He went on further to elaborate on what used to happen to him during work where he had to bring work home and stuff... and then one fine day he decided that enough is enough. He is not spending quality time with his family and thus he decided that he will never bring work home. From then on, he became assertive and learnt how to say no to people.

Well... it just rang a bell in me when he was telling us all that. We only have so much time in the world. Spend it on people who are important to us. Work, yes, is important. But isn't your family more impt than that? "Nah. I will have loads of time to spend with them after my career takes off." hmmm... well.. my brother just told him that one of his good friend's father just passed away just like that. He was in the pink of health but... it just happened.

So... i guess sometimes although we try to be as helpful as we can but why not take a moment to think about this. "will it sacrifice the time i wanted to spend with my loved ones?" Sometimes it might seem to not matter cos the only one at the short end of the stick is ourselves, without realising that we are unintentionally hurting those we love most by sacrificing the time we had wanted to spend with them.

i am not trying to say not to be helpful. hey, why not extend a helping hand if you are free? hmm bu then again... free? what's that? i guess that really depends on your principles and priorities. If something is that important to us, i guess all the more the effort we make to make things happen.

Call that selfish if you want. Look at it the other way. Are you fair to the people you love? They might not mind but... i hope you get what i mean.

Think about it.

What doesn't hurt me might not mean that it doesn't hurt the people I love.